AITA : ‘What’s Mine Is Mine, What’s Yours Is Also Mine’ : Entitled Husband Claims 2/3 Bedrooms for Personal Office & Gym, Offers to “Share” Last One With Wife, Leaving Her With 0 Personal Space

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    Font - Posted by u/_throwaway_1_3_5_7_9 5 hours ago AITA for wanting my own room? n
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    Font - I (24F) and my fiancé (25M) are moving into a small 3 bedroom house together in a couple of months. I had never had my own room growing up and share a room with a roommate in my current living situation to save up money. I always
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    Font - felt the need to share and felt guilty when I wanted to be alone in my room but couldn't since someone else was there. The only time I had a room all to myself was when my roommate or sibling was away. Even so, I didn't feel like I truly had a room to myself.
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    Font - When discussing the use for one of the spare rooms in our soon to be house, I mentioned wanting to turn it into a bedroom for myself when I want to be alone. My fiancé was confused and said he wanted to use the spare room for an at home gym
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    Font - instead. The other spare room will be an office for when my fiancé needs to work from home. I argued that he already has a claim over one of the spare rooms and I should be allowed to use the other one for myself. I told him that I was looking forward to having a space all to myself, where I
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    Font - can be alone when I want, and am the only person that has access to. He argued that the point of moving in together was to share everything with each other and not just coexist in the same space.
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    Font - He said he would change his mind on wanting a gym if we agreed to turn the second room into a guest bedroom that both of us can use when we want to be in our own space. I feel like I would still be
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    Font - sharing. If I have a room to myself to use and he wants to be alone at times, I can just go into my own room, and give him the space he wants. We would be splitting expenses 50/50 so I don't think I am being that unreasonable. AITA for wanting to have my own room?
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    Font - DragonFireLettuce 4 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [31] NTA - if you are moving into a 3 bedroom house, and you both share one bedroom to sleep in, and your are sharing expenses equally - your fiancé can not FAIRLY claim both other rooms for himself (gym and office.) His COMPROMISE is that he gets one of the rooms to himself and he "shares" the other two with you.
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    Font - You're allowed to ask for a room of your own. You don't need to justify why you want it, it could be a home library, an office, a craft room - whatever you want. You do not, I repeat, DO NOT, need to justify wanting one of the two spare rooms to claim for yourself.
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    Font - td1176 3 hr. ago "What's mine is mine, what's yours is also mine" This was my exact thought. He sounds like a controlling person who only prioritizes his own wants and needs. O
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    Font - Purple_Joke_1118 1 hr. ago Lots of men expect to share a bed every single night whether the wife likes it or not.
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    Font - firstaidteacher 2 hr. ago When my now husband and I finally got to have more space and we didn't need to share everything anymore it was like: what do we both need to be happy? He gets a small room for his office because he really doesn't need it often. It
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    Font - is small and not the best lightening. I got one of the best rooms of the house as my space / office because I'll use it more often and I really need this room for myself. No children, no husband, no one enters. And we have a craft room in our basement. Mostly his, but ill use it if needed.
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    Font - I think in the end it is not the same space but we are both happy with it. And this is what counts. Both have to be happy and it has to be somewhat fair.
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    Font - So I really hope OP sees your answer, because as a woman, we are to often pushed aside. It is what it is in our society.
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    Font - Vala82 1 hr. ago Yeah truly NTA My husband and I have both our own gaming room. I made it clear from the beginning that I need my own space, so we won't get on each others nerves. It's just not us to hang out 24/7 together. Happy for 13 years. I would die on this hill as well! There is no compromise.
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    Font - RedRixen83 · 12 min. ago Partassipant [1] Boyfriend and I have our own rooms and it is heaven. He snores, so I actually get sleep this way. The cats also don't ever sleep on him, so he can shut his door and mine stays open for them to come cuddle with me.
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    Font - We're mostly in the living room during our waking hours anyways, but it's nice to have a place that is wholly ours when we want downtime. I'm surprised more people don't have split bedrooms; I'd never go back.
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    Font - vintagelego 4 hr. ago NTA. I feel like men have their own rooms (mancave, "office", "gym") is so normalized, yet when women want one it's a whole ass thing.

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